Holidays Schmolidays!!!

Holiday Schmolidays!!!

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I was spoiled last year.  We went on a vacation for Christmas.  It was awesome!

So why was I spoiled?

Because I didn’t have to shop last year.  We went to Disneyland with my parents and my brother and his family.  We decided we would not purchased the kids gifts because we were spending a lot of money going to Disneyland.  They still got gifts of course but not the usual amount of gifts we give.

I’ll be the first to admit that I am not a fan of the holidays with the exception of Halloween.  I love Halloween.  I feel like Christmas is so commercialized and I’ve never ever really asked for anything even as a little girl.  So it kills me when my kids ask “So, Mom what’s what our budget for Christmas?”

I dislike decorating.  I will never be that person that has their house all pretty and decorated in every room with 20 trees through out the house.  Nope, not me.  My Hubby is into the holidays more than I am.

There are things I feel like I have to do because their sort of traditions:

  • Put up the Christmas tree.  This is something that has to happen but we always put up an artificial tree. I have never ever had a real tree and honestly it’s fine, I’m allergic to everything so do not want to risk it.  This year we got a new tree, it’s pre-lit and awesome.  I found some ornaments from Goodwill and my tree looks like a tree this year and not a hand me down tree.
  • Make a gingerbread house.  We have done this every year since little one was born and we have to do one every year.  I find that Hubby and I tend to do more of the decorating and building and the kids do all the eating.
  • Christmas lights- this is my Hubby’s wheelhouse but every year we are seriously the Griswold’s.  We are the brightest house on the street.
  • Christmas music- little one loves the music so we have to play it while we are putting our gingerbread houses together, wrapping or just hanging out.
  • Baking.  This one is a tough one because I cannot bake to save my life but little one loves to cook and bake so I grab the premade stuff and we bake.  It’s still a way for us to get together and create more memories.

Things I’d prefer we’d skip this year.

  • Sending out holiday cards.  I am the worst at this, often times I don’t even want to do them.  It feels like work.
  • Wrapping gifts.  It was hard enough picking out the gifts now I have to wrap them.  I am not super mom, so my gifts are drab and boring.  No pretty bows and ribbons.
  • Baking- Did I mention I can’t bake to save my life.  Of course I have to have a kid that loves to bake and cook.  I have tried to make a few things from scratch and it never ever turns out good.
  • Buying gifts…I know my kids love the gifts but honestly the older they get the harder it is.  I don’t even know what to get my nephews who I never see and are growing like weeks.  I send them money, that’s what I do cause it’s easy.

Please understand that I love Christmas, the whole reason we celebrate is not about giving gifts to others and Christmas trees.  It’s about Jesus.  It is his birthday but Hallmark has created a not so fun holiday for most of us parents.  I love the family getting together to eat, laugh and be merry.  And of course who doesn’t love all the food and treats.  I do know a lot of folks that are super talented when it comes to cooking and I will always accept anything they bring over.

Here’s to hoping that Christmas is going to be pretty chill and that the kids get everything they want.  I sure do like seeing their smiling happy little faces open all of their gifts on Christmas day.  My goal is to rest, eat lots of food and spend time with the most favorite people in the world.

 

Parenting is Not Easy

I wish I was a super mom.  I see other Mom’s who have all their crap together, they post regularly about their kids getting great grades and even hitting honor roll.  They are super organized, get their kids to school with an awesome lunch, dressed like they are a model at Gap and are always prepared. I am about half of that.  I make sure my kids have clean home (I said clean not immaculate), they have food to eat although it’s not always super healthy and they always have what they need.  I work full time so I try my hardest to get them to their activities on time.  I feel bad cause I’m the reason kiddo may be late to football and he gets lectured from the Coach.

My kids are both amazing but let’s be real here.  I have had a lot of struggles with them both when it comes to their education.  I love my kids, they are awesome but sometimes it is really hard to be a parent. There are times I just want to strangle them but I don’t.  Sometimes I just feel like I am the only Mom out there struggling with their kids bad grades and lack of motivation.

Little one truly has trouble learning and our oldest one is just well…lazy.  He is a very good kid.  He is really smart, he just doesn’t apply himself.  The good thing about him is that he is truly a good kid.  He is polite, considerate, responsible and honestly he is not as bad as I was as a kid.  I had a bad attitude at his age, ask my Mom.  She reminds me pretty often and I know when I am frustrated with the his attitude I know she’s thinking in her head…karma.  I love my oldest but he has no motivation for anything.  Wait, let me scratch that…he has a love for playing guitar. So I encourage the guitar even if it is super loud and I often have to tell him to lower the volume.

He told me recently he doesn’t want to go to college.  I hate to say it but I didn’t want to go to college either.  I wasn’t a fan of school.  I loved writing but I hated math and history. I don’t want to force him but I do realize now that having a bachelor’s degree now is like having a high school diploma in years past.  The folks with the degrees will stand out much more than those with just a diploma.  The biggest issue about this not wanting to go to college thing is that I know he is super smart, I know he is far smarter than I ever was at his age.  I struggled in school.  I had to study, I had to work hard to get good grades.  He turns in a project the that he worked on the day before and gets an 88%.  Seriously, imagine if he had actually put time and effort into the project?  He probably could be an honor roll student.

Little guy wants to go to college and wants to be a food critic.  He says he has to be a chef before he is a critic.  So funny to hear him say this.  So he says he has to go to cooking school first.  Let’s hope that happens cause I am a horrible cook.  I truly hope that we can figure out what is going on with little one cause between the stuff they are teaching now and not being able to read well it’s hard.  I hope that one day something with just click and he gets it.  Right now we are all struggling. The good thing is that he has a strong work ethic, wants so much to learn and he loves sports so that is our motivation there.

So there are times when I feel like I fail as a parent.   I ask God for help daily with my kids.  I ask him for patience, strength and understanding and often times understanding.  If I push too hard I don’t get anything from the teenager, if I don’t push enough it’s kind of the same thing.  I can’t take anything away cause he doesn’t care. I’ve even spanked him and believe me it hurt me more than it hurt him.  So what does a parent do?  I don’t want to give up but I’m flustered.

When I see friends on Facebook posting their kids pics with their straight A’s, I tend to shy away from even posting anything.  It’s terrible because I am truly proud of my kids but I’m not proud of some of the things they do.  I want to be that Mom that is proud of her kid holding up his certificate stating he is on honor roll and I’d be totally happy to roll around in my mom car sporting a “my kid is on honor roll at _____” bumper sticker.  Who wouldn’t?

Parent teacher conferences stress me out.  They really shouldn’t but they do.  I remember walking into the first parent teacher conference when little one was in kindergarten and the teacher asked me “Did Christopher go to Shining Stars Preschool?” I responded with “Umm, no he didn’t.”  I got the look.  You know the look that says you are a bad parent for not starting him on the right path to knowledge.  I even got the look from other mom’s when we attended events at school.  So every time someone mentions Shining Stars I shrink.  Teachers always tell me your kids are great kids, they are very nice and polite and respectful but one is too hyper and the other just flies under the radar so he doesn’t get asked to do anything.  So at the end of these meetings I feel terrible.

We work very hard at giving the kids what they need when it comes to supporting their education and teaching.  We spend a lot of time reading with Christopher and helping him with his sounds and words.  We push Jacob to be more and do more.  We ask him daily if he needs help with his home work and every day the same question “Do you have homework?”  He often responds with “I think so…”  Ugghhh, parenting can be so hard.

If you have had these same struggles let me know so I don’t feel alone. And if your kid is the poster child I want my kids to emulate please let me know what you are doing but please refrain from any judgement, I do enough of that on my own.

 

Welcome to My Blog

This is officially my first post.  As a working mom of two boys our family life can be extremely crazy. If you come by my house right now it’s a mess.  Tomorrow it may be cleaned up a little but I still have clutter.  We have a small house and four bodies living in this house and it can be messy.  Did I mention I have two boys and a Hubby.

The purpose of this blog is really to just share what is on my mind and believe me there is a lot to share.  I have been told I am very hyper but most of my energy comes from all the stuff rolling around in my head. I am somewhat creative.  I have always liked to express myself in written word and I love to make things and crafting has become a fun hobby.

I have been told I have an entrepreneurial spirit and I have joined several businesses in the last few years to help me to drive that spirit.  I have been involved in jewelry, make up and skincare, weight loss supplements, and I have loved each and every product and business.  What I have not loved is bugging friends and family to purchase products.

I am a Mom of two boys, Jacob who is 14 15 and Christopher who is 7 8.  I am married to an amazing man.  He is the love of my life, my best friend and my biggest supporter.  His name is Jesus, but he goes by Chuy, and am so appreciative of all that God has blessed us with.  If you don’t already know God is the center of my life.  Everything I am so grateful for is because God has given it to me.  I will often talk about prayer quite often and the fact that my faith has gotten me through a lot of hard times.  I am never one to judge and honestly I tend to have a very honest spirit.  If you are my friend you know I have your back and you know I wear my heart on my sleeve.

What I hope to gain from this blog?

  • Learning something new.  I am amazed at how many successful bloggers are out there, folks like Sarah Titus, Mandy Rose from House of Rose, Ellen from That Chic Mom and many others to name a few. Each one of them has taught me a little something about how to live my life. Sarah has some great resources when it comes to learning how to create a blog for profit, Mandy and her husband are such great spiritual leaders and lead by example and Ellen is all about fashion.  Love her style and how she finds such great deals.
  • Gain new friends- I am a social butterfly and this may be a little strange but I feel like this will help me acquire new friends outside of my circle.
  • I have always wanted to be a blogger.  About 14 or 15 years ago I was single and pregnant and I started a blog.  It is no longer in existence but I ran that blog for about 3 years as a single mom.  I loved it, loved the support that strangers offered me and the advice.  There were also some not so nice people lurking around my blog too but all in all I was proud of it. I want to get there again.

These are just a few small things but my hope is that every day that I sit here and write that I am helping my brain get a little smarter, I am creating a legacy for my children by sharing our life and reminding them that it is not perfect but we are blessed and I hope that I can gain new friends. And along the way I am hoping that my words will help others by either inspiring them, creating a positive world and maybe create laughter here and there as well.

I am really excited about this new adventure and hope that I can entertain you along the way.  If you haven’t already checked out my About page please do.