I’m not whining, I’m just venting. Sometimes being a Mom is really hard. Sometimes I am tired and sometimes I just want to escape to a little place of my own and read a book or binge watch Netflix. I wish it were that easy. There are days that I want to just drive away from the craziness that is my life.
Today is one of those days. My kids have been frustrating me. OK, let me be honest here I have good kids. They are both kind, sweet, caring boys but sometimes they still frustrate me. My oldest who is a sophomore in high school is so freakin’ smart but he tends to be super lazy. It’s honestly the biggest pet peeve I have to deal with because I try my hardest to show them what it means to work hard and he is just not motivated.
Yes, I know motivation is something that is ingrained and often not something that can be learned. It’s something that is inside of you, something that you just do. I am not sure how to get past this issue. It is so hard to motivate someone who doesn’t want to be motivated. Again, he’s a good kid. He’s really responsible and does not do anything disrespectful. Scratch that he sometimes acts a little snarky to me when he knows I am mad. I am pretty sure he’s just pushing his limits but sometimes it gets on my nerves.
You know I could probably figure out how to deal with this if he were a jerk the way I was as a kid. But he’s not a jerk, he just doesn’t apply himself. So what do you do? What do you do to motivate a kid who is not motivated?
I have tried taking stuff away, it doesn’t work. I took away his cell phone for a while last year when he was failing his classes and nothing. He still wasn’t motivated to bring his grades up. He loves playing guitar and I took that away before too, again nothing. So seriously what do you do?
How do you motivate someone who is truly not interested in being motivated.
I truly love my kids, I wouldn’t trade my life for a million dollars but there are days when again I just want to crawl into a corner and just be left a lone. I sometimes think about life before kids and then I think about all the wonderful blessings I have not because of my kids. They make my life interesting, it is never boring and sometimes when they frustrate me I often learn something from the situation.