My eight-year-old is normally a great kid. Well behaved, so sweet and considerate and also very emotional.
Last week he was not being a good kid. In fact, he was misbehaving a lot and honestly working my nerves. He didn’t want to listen to me, he kept throwing tantrums all week when I asked him to do something and he was instigating lots of fights with my older son.
So last week I grounded him from all devices and TV. I do a lot for my kids, my hubby says I often spoil them too much but they are really good kids; most days. So kiddo was supposed to clean his room and take anything out of his room and closet that he no longer fit into, needed or wanted so that we could include it in our yard sale. I went in once and he was sitting on the floor watching YouTube on the iPad. I told him to put it away and start doing what I told him. Less than 30 minutes later, I went back in and he is still on the iPad and then when I told him to get moving he started whining. So I took the iPad away and that is when he threw a tantrum.
I wasn’t having it at all. I took it away, grabbed the iPod too and turned off the TV in his room and said no devices at all for an entire week because he was being so bad. He started to scream and cry and so I slapped him, not a big hard slap but enough to snap him out of it and told him that I didn’t want to see him until his room was clean and I shut his door.
I could still hear him crying and I didn’t go in there for a while. My oldest son peaked in later and found him in his bed, under the covers asleep. He was still doing that little whimper in his sleep, you know when a kid cries themselves to sleep? I seriously wanted to drag him out of bed and strangle him but I just let it go. When he woke up an hour later I told him to grab lunch and then go back to cleaning his room. He did it and I didn’t have to yell at him again.
Later that evening, I was doing some work on my business in my home office and he came over and said: “Mom, I’m really sorry about today.” I told him, “Christopher I appreciate that you are apologizing but you are not getting your devices back.” I could see his little lip start to quiver but he looked at me and sucked it up and then said “OK” and walked away.
My hubby found him in his room sitting on the floor staring at the wall so asked him if he wanted to go outside and look at the stars and moon cause it was a beautiful night. So he did. They hung out for a bit and I found out that his Dad had shown him some pics and videos on his phone of the universe. (Not sure if Dad gets it but I was trying to keep him away from the devices.) Anyway, he ended up going to bed and didn’t ask again, the next morning he tried again and I said: “Sorry son I told you I wouldn’t let you have them for a week.” I could tell he was mad but he let it go.
It seriously is really hard to be tough on the kids, especially when you want them to be happy. I don’t want my kids to be brats though and seriously last week he was acting like a brat. Again, most days my kids are great kids. I don’t have to discipline them much and he is usually the one that when asked does what is asked and gets it done. He figures if I get it done, that means I have more time for myself or to play. My older kiddo is more of a procrastinator but he will get the work done.
What do you do when your kids are bad?